Do you let fear hold you back? Does it stop you from doing the things that you really want to do?
Why do we let it, I know for me it’s a way of protecting myself from other peoples judgement “who does she think she is!!” The fear of failing, but how do you know it won’t work if you don’t try? The fear of not being good enough, who am I or anyone else to say I’m not good enough?
I attended an event yesterday with a group of amazing and inspirational women all with their own fears and insecurities. But all with so much talent and love to share. Attending that event was outside my comfort zone but I did it and I am so glad I did. You see I am not confident in a room full of strangers. Now this may seem odd to people who know me through work as I was responsible for leading a team and giving them direction and worked in a customer facing role, the difference is that wasn’t me being me, that was me doing my job……and if I’m totally truthful it was sometimes really hard but I learnt to do it over time.
I attended the event as me and that fills me with so much fear and anxiety, what if nobody speaks to me, what if I say or do something stupid, what if, what if, what if ………………
Even driving their filled me with fear, I’ve driven for 17 years but still get anxious when I go somewhere I don’t know! With the help of the sat nav and Google Maps I made it (even if I did drive past the venue once!!) This time it wasn’t a room full of complete strangers there were some familiar faces that I already knew, some only through the power of social media. But I still had that feeling of fear in the pit of my stomach.
I was sat on a table with 7 others and made some amazing connections and new friends for life. And I discovered the way I feel is normal and other people feel it too. It’s ok to be scared, it’s ok to feel fear but its more important to think about what it is that’s stopping you and giving you that doubt. I know for me it’s just a little voice in my head telling me I’m not good enough. Today I am telling that little voice, guess what. I am good enough, I can and will do it. If I had given in to my fear and not gone none of this would of happened.
Take small steps every day and do something that scares you and stretches you. Think about a child learning to stand and walk, they don’t give up and stop trying the first time they fall down. They get up[ and carry on trying until they can do it. they never give up. When they say the magic happens at the end of your comfort zone, they are telling the truth.
Never be afraid to be you, you are strong, you are beautiful, you are enough!