Do you ever have days where you just can’t get out of your own head?
Overthinking is definitely a trap I fall into…..time and time again!! Now I wouldn’t really class my self as a worrier. I have come to think what will be will be and that it will all work out in the end. But I can definitely create a mountain out of a molehill in my own head. I can’t tell you the number of times Carl will ask me what’s wrong when he can see I’m brooding on something and I respond with ‘nothing’ because I know the answer to is that its just my brain overthinking a simple situation and making mountains out of molehills. Even creating situations and scenarios that don’t exist.
Why do I have this little voice in my head that makes me doubt that what people say is what they actually mean……why is it there. And more importantly why do I listen to it.
This is not a recent thing either its something I think has been there forever. I would get an email from my boss saying they need to speak to and I would immediately think I had done or said something wrong. Now don’t get me wrong I’m not perfect and I’ve had a few bumps in my career along the way, but another one of my crazy character traits is always holding my hands up when I know I’m in the wrong. Where did this self doubt come from, I was good at my job and always did what was expected and then some. So why would the panic alarm in my head go into overdrive??
Why can I see the words that someone has written but read a totally different sentence. Today I knew it was happening and I tried really hard to stop it. I tried getting my head down and pushing on with some work, and guess what, the work I did I worried it wasn’t good enough. Sometimes I just need to get out of my own head, so today I did I took an hour out got out of the house, had some fresh air and treated myself to coffee and a cake…….because cake always makes me feel better!!
Honestly just stepping away and taking some ‘me’ time made a huge difference today, so I thought I would share some other things to try the next time we get stuck in our own head and the cogs go into overdrive:
- Do something to distract yourself, dance around your kitchen (one of my favourites), go for a walk, watch a tv show you know makes you laugh.
- Set a time on the thoughts, set yourself 5 minutes to think about the situation and then take 5 minutes to write down all the things you thought of…..then screw it up and throw it away!
- Put it into perspective – how much will it matter tomorrow or next week?
- We can’t predict the future so why spend the present moment worrying about it? All that does is waste the time we have now.
- Gratitude, practice being thankful, because its a fact that you can’t have a positive thought and a negative one at the same time.
But most importantly I am going to remember that I am in control of my own thoughts. So the next time I hear that voice I’m going to stop wondering, stop obsessing, stop thinking and just breathe. Knowing that it will all work out for the best and that what’s meant to be will be.
Its time to get out of my own head and start doing instead of thinking!